Are you considering dating a woman who has given you hints that she doesnt want kids? Then this is for you.
1. You should have your own baby feelings figured out.
If you're dating a woman who doesn't want to have kids, you should know whether or not you do. If you don't, pursuing something more long-term isn't fair to either of you. The plan is simple: (1) Be a cool, reasonable human. (2) Figure out your own stuff out so you don't harsh everyone's good time. (3) Drink two margaritas. (4) Be happy forever.
2. You won't change her mind.
Please don't try. A decision like this is not easily come to and when she says she doesn't want kids, she means it. It's insulting to everyone involved when you try to cajole or trick her into babies. Don't be a jerk. (See above simple plan to know how to behave.)3. You're going to do lots of super-fun stuff together. She's most likely very into spontaneous activity and you'll be taking lots of last-minute road trips, surprise dates, and wacky adventures together. (And you won't have to spend money on a babysitter for any of it! Score.)
4. She probably loves to travel.
Not having kids means more freedom and more disposable income, so it's easy peasy to book a last-minute flight to Japan because Travelzoo is having a crazy deal. She's all about experiencing and living life, so she needs a partner who won't hesitate to hike Mount Kilimanjaro if her climbing club is planning a trip.
5. She's not a child hater.
Just because she doesn't want to shoot a watermelon out of her vagina and then raise it to become a responsible member of society doesn't meant she can't love the crap out of other kids. My nieces and nephew are the most important people to me in the world outside of my husband and this pizza. (Because it's pizza.)
6. She won't rule out dating you because you have kids.
Sometimes a woman just doesn't want to experience giving birth and being the primary (or sole) caretaker for a bebe. That doesn't mean she wouldn't love to play second fiddle to the little ones in your life. She might not want to but you should definitely ask.
7. Moving is easier for her.
She doesn't have to worry about disrupting any life but her own, and trekking across the country (or to a new country!) for love is not a deal breaker. Translation: Seeking out long-distance romances with fly-ass honeys (sorry) in other area codes is suddenly a (very awesome) possibility. *Broadens OkCupid search.* *Meets soul mate.* *Thanks writer of this list (Laura) with a million billion dollars.* *Eventually goes to heaven.*
8. Just because she doesn't have (or want) kids doesn't mean she isn't busy.
Women without children keep schedules packed with jobs they love, booked social calendars, and a million other commitments. Heck, Ladies Sans Babies (my new club; contact me about membership!) can be even busier than their breeding counterparts, so don't assume someone is free and easy just because she's without bebe.
9. She still wants a serious relationship.
Just because kids don't factor into the equation doesn't necessarily rule out love, marriage, and everything but the baby carriage. She might still want a partner to grow ridiculously old with and yell Jeopardy answers at the screen with when you're both 102.
10. She's still a "complete" woman.
Just because she doesn't have the urge to raise a child doesn't mean she's lacking in any way. Women without kids can still be deeply selfless, utterly empathetic, and capable of giving total and complete love and trust.